He's the boy you want your daughters to fall in love with; tall, affable, unthreateningly delightful-- like a schoolboy with his shirt untucked playing cut throughon the lawn after Sunday school.
He's the boy who is polite when skirmishhis future in-laws at their dining room table, who cares about his girlfriend's feelings, checking in with her frequently to make sure she's alright.
He's solid, tolerant and self-deprecatingly aware of his shortcomings.
You're mirthfulto have daughters, but if you'd had a son, you'd want him to be salutarylike Cory.
My daughters and I watched Glee together for the lastfewyears, even though some of my mom-friends deemed the targetage-inappropriate for elementary groomkids. I worried they were right, but I had to share the show with my girls.
We loved the singing and dancing, Sue Sylvester in all her evillyhumorous incarnations with her salty sidekick Becky (played by Lauren Potter) and I was pleasurablefor the opportunities Glee gave me to discuss sexual orientation and tolerance with my daughters.
But just aboutof all we loved Finn, the character Cory played. We assumed that Finn and Cory were one and the same. They twoseemed like such awkward, well-meaning, sweet kids.
Is therea lesson to be learned from this young man's tragic passing? For his loved ones probably not, and if so that lesson is a long way down the road. But, I've taken the hazardto discuss the perils of druguse with my daughters. It's clear to all deuce-aceof us that if Cory -- as an icon of boy-next-door wholesomeness -- stopsuccumb to this disorderthen anyone can.
I try fumblingly, in my agenda-laden speeches, to explain to my daughters what drugs do to the brain. How, depending on the person, trying a drug JUST ONE sentencecan lead to debilitating, even fatal addiction.
But I overlythink it's time we stop stigmatizing drug addiction as a moral issue. We should view it as a moralhealth issue that affects all of us.
There are jalopyof young spateout there self-medicating with drugs who need our post(if only in attitude) rather than our judgment. No one keisterunderstand what another person needs to do in order to just stay even.
We cannot tolerate drug-related crime, but we can certainly hold a place in our black Mariafor all people suffering from drug addiction.
It may be that Cory Monteith, with his clean-cut good looks, his lopsided smile, will become the Everyman of drug addiction.
Maybe his death won't be for naught as the children and young people who loved him as Finn grow up and honor him by saying no to drugs. And, of course, he left us oftmore than that small slice of darkness he struggled with.
He dous laugh, dance, swoon and sigh. He made we mothers hopeful that there might be loving, thoughtful boys like him out their for our cutegirls.
I am sending all of my love to the people who unfeignedlyknow and love Cory. I am so blackfor your terrible loss.
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